You've Got This - Becoming The Man You're Meant To Be
About the Podcast
This podcast is for men who know they’re meant for more.
More clarity.
More direction.
More from themselves.
Because from the outside, life might look “successful”—career, relationships, achievements—but something still feels off. You’re not broken… but you’re not fully aligned either. And you know it.
Hosted by Andy Nathan, this show explores what it really takes to live with integrity, purpose, and emotional strength.
Expect:
- Raw, honest conversations
- Stories of challenge, resilience, and transformation
- Practical tools for leading yourself and others
- And plenty of deep dives into masculine psychology (with a touch of nerdy passion)
We'll explore:
- Why so many men feel stuck, even when life “looks fine”
- What creates lasting change—not just temporary motivation
- How to stop sleepwalking through life and start living as The Architect
- How to raise your standards, take ownership, and lead with strength
Whether you're in the middle of a challenge or simply know you’re playing smaller than you should be—this podcast will meet you where you are and challenge you to become who you were meant to be.
About Andy
Andy Nathan is a writer, mentor, teacher and coach.
He didn’t get into this work in his twenties. It took hitting 40, feeling stuck in a draining career, struggling with relationships, and wondering why life felt so off-track.
And for years, therapy didn’t help. It felt surface-level or frustrating. Andy assumed maybe he just wasn’t “built” for this kind of work.
(Spoiler: he was. Just not the kind of work that was just talking and not rebuilding.)
After 25+ years in the corporate world, and over a decade in the wellbeing and transformation space, Andy now works with men ready to do the deeper work of identity shifts, emotional healing, self-mastery, and leadership. Andy also mentors coaches and facilitators and trains people to become coaches.
His coaching, group program (The Man Program), and men’s wilderness retreats help men slow down, reconnect, and take back the wheel—so they can stop drifting and start living with clarity, strength, and purpose.
This work isn’t just about change.
It’s about remembering who you are. And figuring that out!
Work With Andy
- 1:1 Coaching
- The Man (Group Program)
- Retreats & Events
- Corporate & Team Development (Online & In Nature)
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You've Got This - Becoming The Man You're Meant To Be
The Nice Guy Trap *Part 2 - The Cost of Being Liked (When Approval Becomes a Cage)
If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything “right” but still feel unappreciated, drained, or resentful… This episode is for you.
Many men pride themselves on being good men.
They’re considerate. Thoughtful. Emotionally aware.
They don’t like conflict. They avoid tension.
They try to be understanding, adaptable, and easy to be with.
On the surface, this looks like emotional maturity.
But underneath, something else often builds:
Frustration.
Resentment.
A quiet sense of being unseen, unchosen, and undesired.
In this episode, I explore what I call The Nice Guy Mask - a survival strategy many men learned early in life that slowly turns into a cage.
You’ll learn:
- Why “being nice” is often a strategy, not a personality
- How approval-seeking quietly erodes self-respect
- What covert contracts are and why they poison relationships
- Why people don’t fully trust men who never take a position
- How resentment builds when you abandon yourself
- The difference between kindness and self-erasure
- Why boundaries aren’t cruelty—they’re adulthood
This episode is not about becoming harsh, dominant, or emotionally closed.
It’s about telling the truth.
It’s about including yourself in the equation.
It’s about learning to risk disapproval so you can finally be real.
Because when you stop performing for approval, something surprising happens:
People relax.
Trust increases.
And your yes - and your no - start to mean something.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything “right” but still feel invisible, drained, or quietly angry…
This episode is for you.
Series:
This episode is part of The 8 Masks Men Wear — short reflections on the survival identities men adopt, and what it takes to move beyond them.
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An 8-week journey to identify the mask running your life — and remove it so you can finally lead as the man you were meant to be.
Email: andy@andynathan.co.uk
Want to Drop the Masks?
The 8 Masks Men Wear begins in February 2026.
If you want to stop letting old survival strategies run your life and start leading from who you truly are, this is for you.
Connect with Andy
Instagram: @andyjnathan / @themanprogram
Website: andynathan.co.uk